Maybe the relationships you’ve been in didn’t serve you — and you’re ready to break the pattern. Or you’re wondering whether this is the right relationship. Maybe even starting to doubt whether the right one is out there for you. You might want to feel less stressed but it’s hard to learn how to solve problems instead of avoiding them.
Relationships and emotions are more complicated than we think. I think when we forget that, we’re hard on ourselves for struggling with the hardest things there are. Before anything else, I want you to feel comfortable. You can’t do real work in a room where you’re bracing for shame, guilt and judgment.
A lot of what I do is help you tell the difference between what you actually want and what you’ve been told to want — by family, by culture, by the part of you that learned to keep the peace and please others.
I work with a lot of women and couples, most of them South Asian, on exactly this: the quiet cost of always being the one who adjusts and breaking the draining cycles of communication with yourself, your partner and your family.
We’ll go slowly, but we’ll also get somewhere. I’m solution-focused — I don’t want to keep you in therapy forever but I want you to work on the deeper issues that make you feel like you’re always the one sacrificing or compromising.
You’re allowed to want a relationship — with your partner, your family and with yourself — that actually serves you.
My first job is to make therapy feel safe and unhurried, so you can say the real thing without managing how it lands and how someone else sees you. From there I stay solution-focused — we work toward change rather than circling it.
I have been a therapist for 15 years and an adjunct Faculty Member at Pepperdine University for almost 10 years. I draw on attachment, CBT and Emotionally Focused Therapy to understand your relationships, cognitive and solution-focused tools for the stress in front of you, and mindfulness to slow the spin.
Our sessions cost $200 for individuals, $250 for couples & families. I see clients all days of the week, Sunday through Saturday mornings, afternoons and evenings with flexible scheduling.
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