About me

For those of us who identify as Indian, South Asian, or part of the Indian Diaspora, we face a complicated balancing act of bridging the space ‘in-between’.

Hi, I’m Kavita. I provide online couples therapy / marriage counseling and personal therapy in California. I specialize in relationship issues, interracial couples, South Asian mental health, life transitions, and anxiety. I am accepting new clients. Learn about me and how I can help you.

Relationship and Couples Therapy. No matter how you define your relationship — dating, living together, engaged, married, life partners — our need for love and connection is the same. So, why do relationships feel so challenging?

While each person and couple is unique, my clients appreciate my knowledge, experience, and insights of South Asian customs, beliefs, and attitudes. I have experience working with couples whose families arranged their marriages, as well as, those who dated and made their own decision to marry. My cultural awareness is an integral aspect of our work allowing you and I to focus on the relationship without you having to educate me about your culture. We explore the role family expectations and traditional norms play in your beliefs about parenting, communication style, gender roles, expectations for closeness and intimacy, household management, and the role of in-laws and extended family members.

I help you identify your core vulnerabilities and understand how the interplay between each partner’s vulnerabilities thwarts empathy, stokes destructive communication and conflict, and foments distrust, alienation, anger, shame, and a loss of intimacy. I help you recognize unhealthy patterns that are keeping your relationship stuck. Together we identify the optimal level of togetherness and separateness each of you needs and how having boundaries helps. You learn how to communicate needs and feelings and listen with curiosity and empathy, so both of you can engage safely and feel heard. With curiosity and empathy, you are able to turn towards one another to foster intimacy, connection, and resilience. So your relationship can bloom

Personal Therapy. Do you feel empty, disconnected, sad, or anxious? Do you have difficulty making decisions or feel like an imposter? Are you seeking personal growth, fulfillment and vitality?

Immigrants, 1st- or 2nd-generation South Asian Americans often feel like outsiders. You have to find a way to belong in a new land while grieving the loss of your ancestral home, family, community, language, etc. In addition, your family’s expectations, cultural norms and values, and traditional gender roles hold you back and conflict with your desire to fit-in, straining family relationships and worsening the sense of isolation and lack of belonging. You feel pulled apart and confused about who you are and how you want to show up in the world. I help you define who you are and how you want to show up in your life and relationships.

In our therapy relationship, you experience new ways of relating. To forge a healthy relationship with yourself, we work on developing self-esteem and identity, understanding your attachment style and vulnerabilities, and exploring deep-rooted beliefs and assumptions you hold about yourself. With greater self-knowledge, you begin to feel you have more choice and agency in your own life, so you feel a deeper connection to your partner and significant others, empowered to achieve your personal and professional aspirations, and passion, vitality and fulfillment in your life.

Contact me for a free, confidential phone consultation. We’ll talk about how I can help you. We’ll find out if we are a good fit. Get started by filling out this short form.

Qualifications & Practice Details

License Number: 119728

License State/Territory: California

Additional Credentials:

India Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Training and Research Institute for Emotionally Focused Therapy Alliant

Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Certification, The Psychotherapy Institute

MA, Marriage and Family Therapy, John F. Kennedy University

MBA, UC Davis

BA, Psychology, UC Riverside

Insurance Plans: I provide Superbills for out-of-network reimbursement from your insurance

Prescribe Medication: No

Practical Details

Languages
Hindi
Urdu
English
Types of Clients
Adults
Older Adults
Couples
Session Types
Online
Phone
Specialities